Dating married woman at work
In fact there usually isn't after the affair is over. Even though he has a deep feeling of love for you, he is able to process it in an unemotional way.
He's not a bad guy, he may be a wonderfully kind person, but he is also a practical one.
You need to step back and identify the priorities -- your priorities -- in a relationship with a married man. Ensuring you have a life distinct from his that is your safe haven can make being the other woman, if not a secure, permanent position, at least one that is a bit more tolerable.
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He knows that holding on to emotions that can only cause problems for his family is something he cannot and will not do. To safeguard yourself from too much emotional pain, you need to understand that he can only be a small part of your life and will never be more than that no matter how many promises are made.
You need to have a life that works and that is full enough to withstand the pain of the eventual breakup. A solid circle of friends and a social life separate from your hidden life with him is a necessity.
If she does this sort of thing now, she might do it to me if we get together. You think it’s fate to fall in love with a married woman? Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “There’s going to be a day of reckoning, my son.” You have to memorize “ Who set you up as God, Diego? Diego, your girlfriend has already betrayed her husband! You have to quit your gym and join another one somewhere else. And whenever she sends you a message, hit DELETE DELETE DELETE!
We tell each other we should stop talking, but a couple days go by and one of us will cave in.
Then we’ll talk, realize that we shouldn’t be doing this because she wants to be a good person and not betray her husband, and I don’t want the bad karma, so we’ll stop talking. Doc, I know what you say in “The System” about women like Maddie, but I am just so in love with her.
Perhaps the best advice you can give someone about having a relationship with a married man is telling her not to even start. As my friend Jenna* told me, "You can't help who you fall in love with.
The love of your life just might be a married man." Being part of any couple can be challenging and unpredictable, as we all know.