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You can find the Inner Space website here and read other articles written by her here.In my earlier post on expressing one’s feelings, I discussed how we are reluctant to express our feelings due to the fear, “What if I express but I am not heard”.You both should be ready for daughter to throw fits and perhaps even move out (if she can).This is all normal, and will tend to subside once it becomes clear that the new limits you both set are not something she can manipulate.I need some me time with hubby we haven’t had a romantic night since well…forever… Instead, it is a very real and unfortunately common problem that occurs in some marriages.Households where children from prior marriages are combined are perhaps particularly vulnerable to this sort of thing happening, for reasons which will hopefully become clear in a moment.They make policy together and speak with one voice, individually resisting any given child’s attempts to manipulate or to play one parent off the other to gain advantage.
Children’s loyalties are to their old families and new spouses in step-parent roles (whether this term is used or not) are not easily listened too.
It feels good to get what you want, but it is not always in your best interest that this should occur.
The outcome, in your case, is that daughter becomes more of a selfish brat (albeit a brat who was probably wounded by her biological parent’s divorce and who is acting out at the present time), husband becomes daughter’s poodle, wife feels unloved and unappreciated, and everyone loses self-respect.
Family therapists call this sort of problem a boundary issue.
In an idealized household, the adult couple functions as an integrated unit, at least as far as their children are concerned.